© 2003 Brian Hodges - Please do not remove the copyright from this essay

he next person who tells me to "Ignore the bee," is getting punched in the mouth. "Just sit still. If you leave it alone, it'll go away. Swatting makes it angry. Running and shrieking will only get you stung." I don't care what any of you say. When a bee comes within a reasonable distance (read: when I can see or hear it), I am going to do everything in my power to keep it as far from me as possible. I don't care how ridiculous I look. I've done the sitting still thing. Believe me, I've done the sitting still thing.

I was probably no more than four at the time. My parents had taken us out for ice cream. Riding home in the back, contentedly licking my bubble-gum scoop and picking out the little gum pieces for later, my perfect enjoyment was suddenly put on hold when I noticed a bee on my arm. Whether it had been attracted by the sugary smell or it just wanted to look tough by picking on a small child, I'll never know. I could already feel the tears of horror welling up inside as I squeaked out, "Mom, there's a bee on me." Mom assured me to just sit still and it would fly away. So I did. I trusted her as only a child can. I trusted her as I watched the bee crawl up my arm. I trusted her as I watched the bee crawl into my shirt. I trusted her as I felt the bee crawl around on my chest. I trusted her right up until the instant when the bee got stuck in my shirt, freaked out and then stung me.

My ice cream cone melted down my hand and into my lap because I was too busy crying. So no, I will not sit still.

My in-laws make fun of how I currently deal with bugs. We'll be sitting around having a nice quiet conversation when I suddenly sense that a mosquito is biting my-WHAM! Poor bastard never saw it coming. Neither did my in-laws who are now nursing mild heart attacks in response to the gunshot sound of flesh striking flesh.

You know that scene at the beginning of Raiders of the Lost Ark when Indiana Jones realizes he has spiders all over his back, so he calmly brushes them off with his whip? Yeah, I don't do that. The nanosecond the nerves in my back register anything smaller than a chair, my whole body contorts into a corkscrew, my hands raining down blows like shock and awe on the compromised area. WHAPWHAPWHAPWHAPWHAP… This tripwire response, while effective, does generate a lot of false alarms. I have leaned back from the kitchen table only to fight off perceived attacks from grocery bags on the counter. After receiving numerous bruises to her fingers, my wife now makes sure to caress my neck with her left hand, forcing me to draw blood on her diamond.

"Why do you have to be so spastic?" she and her family ask every time I defend myself against shoelaces, cats tails and curtain cords. But I know I'm right. My instincts may prove wrong ninety percent of the time, but I'm convinced that when a black widow spider finally perches itself on my neck, I'm going to be ready for him. Before his second leg even touches down-BAM! The in-laws who used to poke fun will, I'm sure, deal with their poisonous spiders calmly, reaching back and saying, "Hey what's-" but too late, they're already dead. It's Us versus Them and you're either quick or you're dead.

I'm not afraid of bugs. Really I'm not. I dutifully perform my husbandly role of killing small things in our house. And I don't do the wussy thing with the can of Raid either. I take the crunch under my shoe or between my fingers like a man. As long as I can see them, and they're behaving rationally or dead, I'm just fine with bugs. It's when they want to land on a living being ten-thousand times their size that I start to get suspicious. So don't bother me with old wives tales. Don't tell me to sit still and ignore them. A bee betrayed my trust once before. I will not be fooled again. And if I want to run, swat and scream like a little girl, I will.