You write one column with the word "lesbian" in it...

A few years ago I used to write a somewhat weekly column for an online e-zine called the Greenwich Village Gazette. I eventualy stopped writing for them after I'd created my own website simply because they were a pain to deal with - posted things incorrectly, screwed up links, etc. The last thing I ever wrote for them was what I considered to be a witty and sarcastic column about a court ruling in New Hampshire that said if a woman cheated on her husband with another woman, it wasn't considered adultery. I went off on not only the ludicrousness of the law, but also on the gay and lesbian community's official response, which I thought came off as incredibly self-serving and unsympathetic.

Apparently my article is still very much circulating the cosmos, because in the last week alone I have gotten close to a dozen emails about it. Curious, I typed in a few choice keywords and found that it has been posted, either in its entirety or as excerpts, on several blogs and news sites. Depending on who was posting, or on who was writing me emails, people were either giving me big old "Amens" or calling me an outright homophobe. The column certainly wasn't intended to come off as homophobic, simply pointing out hypocrisy where hypocrisy lay. If I were going to comment on anything here, it would be about how sloppily written the piece was... I've grown a lot as a writer since then. So, I could have been put off by those homophobia comments if not for the fact that a good majority of gay people who have written me in the last week, and in the past few years, regarding this column have echoed my sentiments, telling me I'm right on the ball: "Adultery is adultery."

It has also been really interesting seeing how people place assumptions on what I must believe based on this article. Depending on their point of view and their frame of mind, people have both commended and derided me because I obviously am in support of gay marriage, or else they have commended and derided me because I obviously don't consider gay relationships to be as valid as straight ones. Regardless of what I believe when it comes to those things, it's rather amusing watching on fire people use my 800 word essay as a springboard for their own conflicting points of view.

Anyway, I was just rather amused that something I wrote nearly 3 years ago was still circulating the internet and igniting such ire and passion in people. If you want to check out the original piece, you can follow one of the two following links and then tell me if you think I come off as homophobic(?), right on the money(?), badly written(?):

Greenwich Village Gazette Column

Hey Guess What Column